Only You Can Define Yourself!
For a very long time, I let other peoples opinion of me (or what I thought they were thinking of me) define me. I also believed that the things I did define me. Over the last year, I have learnt that I am the only person who can determine who I am, and I am more than the things I do. You are the only person you have to prove yourself to and you should be proud of who you are!
You are not your past or what has happened to you
Just because you used to do certain things or be a certain person in the past, doesn’t mean that is still you. That was in the past and all that matters is the person you are today. What has happened to you in the past is also not who you are. You are more than an event that has happened to you, rather you are how you responded to that event. The person you are today has formed from how you have responded to everything that has happened in your life, and how you choose to respond to everything that happens today. Don’t be a victim of the past, live in the now and be proud of the person you are TODAY!
You are not what others think of you! (Or what you think they think of you)
Other people’s opinions/views of you do not define you! What others say about you are not you! Only you can determine who you are and how you see yourself. While you might think other people see you as a certain person, that doesn’t mean they are right and that their view of you is who you are. You determine who you are and you are the only person who knows yourself the best, so who better to back yourself than YOU! (Can I say ‘you’ one more time haha!) I say all of this because I did this for so long. I really cared about what people thought of me, and I thought people saw me as this quiet and shy girl, and that was how I saw myself. As I learnt to start listening to myself and not caring so much about how others saw me, I realized I could be the person I want to be without thinking I had to fit within those definitions others had of me. I began to be me and just listen to how I viewed myself, no one else. You don’t have to prove yourself to anyone and you can really be whoever you want.
You don’t have to be the same person you were yesterday!
For me, I used to believe that I couldn’t change or be different to what I have always been. I didn’t think I could grow and develop confidently around people because I really cared about what others thought of me. I didn’t think I could be the person I really wanted to be, because I thought everyone had their own idea of who I was, and if I changed, they would notice and would judge me. This is what anxiety does friends, and writing this down now, I can see how silly it sounds to think that people would judge me for being me and choosing to develop myself. Building confidence is not easy and often, it is just faking until you make it. You can start right now to become who you really want to be and do what you really want to do. You don’t have to be the same person you were a year ago, a month ago or even yesterday! You don’t have to stay in your current job if it’s not what you really want to do. You don’t have to have the same fashion style you have always had. Mix it up! Wear those funky outfits you have always wanted to wear. You don’t have to stay friends with people that are bringing you down. You can make new friends. You can become a morning person. You can take on new hobbies and change up your priorities. You can create the life you want and be the person you want to be. You can be better than you were yesterday.
Get to know yourself and just love the person you are. There’s nothing more freeing than being yourself and not worrying about how other people see you. That’s easier said than done and it takes time to fully love the person you are, but you can grow into the person you want to become, not who you think you should be!
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